When to start dating after baby
I was in the middle of interviewing a popular yoga teacher for a magazine story when I saw my phone light up. Still, what he described as his “sense of betrayal” struck me as extreme. Without much time to explain, I asked the yogi to hold my hand. My mother reminded me, as she always does, that there’s a halo above me. When I explained that I used a sperm donor, they were comforted but confused. And to be fair, I’d waited until about 20 minutes in, because our banter seemed so fluid and fun. ” I was so happy, I couldn’t even find words to express my gratitude. In fact, I already had so many warm feelings around my pregnancy that I quite longed for a handsome man to take me to dinner and share stories and secrets. I could live with being single, but everything about my childlessness felt wrong. If anyone wanted to call it weird, well, they weren’t welcome on this journey with me. I wanted to date for the pleasure of it, not because I was a 37-year-old woman hunting for a husband or a baby daddy before the clock ran out. I never hesitated in telling the truth about my story—to anyone. I’d been dying to have a baby before it was too late, and though I’d come close with a couple of exes, I still wasn’t sure what I was looking for in a man.Not only would I be having a newborn in several months, but I couldn’t even meet up for a proper drink.
She was prettier than I ever imagined and more elegant than a newborn has any right to be.I was sleep-deprived but propped up by a continual swell of happy hormones. We took long, contemplative walks and got lattes every morning.