System of dating
The point is, a marriage is a joining of two families as well as two young people.
Few choices and no time to date People may assume that arranged marriages were loveless matches, with frightened young people forced into lives of emotional pain and forbidding loneliness, but such was not always the case.
Steady one-on-one dating at too young an age with no goal of marriage in sight can lead to problems and temptations.
(Of course, courting isn’t the starting place for those not of marriageable age.
Laughable perhaps, but several hundred years ago that was a common reality.
Through courting, the couple became acquaintances, then friends, gained mutual respect and hopefully the love that would sustain them through married life.
This is quite different from the freedoms experienced by young people today.
We have more options now; “love” is almost always the universal premise for marriage, particularly in Western cultures.
A nervous young man arrives at the door of a majestic brownstone townhouse.
He carries a small wood box containing a silver bracelet and ring, and a bouquet of resplendent burgundy tulips.How else would a young man and a young woman, meeting perhaps for the first time at the betrothal ceremony, get to know each other?