And additionally, the confidence to bat off the ones I wasn’t interested in.
In fact I met my ex husband whilst I was very drunk in a nightclub. (Of course I had to have a few drinks before meeting him again.) I’m not sure now if I ever made good relationship choices.
The idea of going out on a date without the comforting blanket of alcohol to boost your confidence can seem intimidating.
But we want to show that you can go out there sober(er) with confidence.
With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it got us thinking about how navigating the sober dating seas can be a bit of a rough ride. In fact, in a survey by Match.com, 73% of respondents said that alcohol made it easier for them to date.
Do you announce your sobriety before you’ve even met? A few glasses of wine may feel like it’s getting the conversation going, and make most dates seem more interesting and attractive than they actually are. You can actually rely on your judgement, and you’re less likely to make a complete arse of yourself.
As such, I am totally unsure of myself or how I come across to others.
Fellowship meetings are not social clubs, and I tend to focus on recovery and helping others while there.
I don’t go on big nights out any more, never mind going to pubs or going dancing.
If I am out with friends, their company is my priority.
You’ve trusted your gut and your sober self, and chosen to go home with the best date ever – yourself.
Being honest and upfront about your (non-) drinking means that you’ll also weed out all the people who just cannot deal with an alcohol-free evening.
I am also acutely aware that many of my fellows share stories of partners who have come through their journey with them Their partners support and help them to find sobriety.