Single mother dating
Just to name a few, the single mom generally stands on a sturdy foundation of reality (think Groundhog day), has the ability to laugh at herself (think wardrobe malfunctions), and add to that the bonus…constant chasing of the children has kept the inches off of her waist instead of the alternative.That being said: Is she toting a child but not wearing a ring? Give the hot mom with the toddler a wink at the grocery store.This is not “baggage” as some would erroneously refer to it as, it’s better described as “relationship carry-on”. While we can all agree that pregnancy and childbirth are some of life’s miracles, a truly magical time and experience, we must admit to ourselves that it also (for most) has its challenges. Women get tired, gain weight, and things hurt…everything hurts. Pregnancy is challenging, challenge builds character, and character allows people approach life in functional and productive way.Hormones are all over the place and very strange things happen to moods, stomachs, and the color of ones skin. With the single mom, that rocky mountain of pregnancy has been conquered, maybe a few times, and the reward of the experience and child is there without the pending grind of pregnancy and delivery. While the single mom is still a woman just like any other, she also finds that a man’s true character is his hottest feature.She has a built in smother-protection clause in the form of lots of priorities higher than you. And when it did, she silently yet immediately applied the marriage/kids/family algorithm to your partnership, a complex and rigid calculation that works backwards from her perceived oldest possible age of childbirth and sets you sail on an invisible yet very well mapped journey towards conception. She is seeking any way to get back, just for a moment, to a carefree spot in her life that didn’t involve the responsibility of children.Think back to every third date you have had with a single woman in her late 20’s or early 30’s. While you may be exposed to the occasional story about the SUPER funny potty mishap from earlier in the day (cut her some slack and laugh) you are free of the biological noose that probably choked out some past dating relationships. Getting up before the kids (even if it means 4 am) to have coffee alone is fun.Peoples past experiences and expectations drag the lows down lower and place a more manic and incredulous quality to the highs.Single moms are not immune to the conditions of life that affect people and their dating relationships, however in my well-researched opinion, there are many reasons why they are better prepared to whether the storms of dating life than others.
If it’s not Taboo or Battle of the Sexes at a dinner party, she does not want to play games with you.until each encounter just ended up running together until there were no more separate encounters to look forward to. Even if she’s really into you she simply has too much to do.Disregard the concerns about losing your guy’s night, giving up your golf game, or of not having that time to yourself with the remote. In fact, she might be brainstorming how to talk the sitter into staying just a little later tonight or considering some summer camps that are both enriching and more than one week in duration.Dating is one of life’s rituals where high-highs and low -lows are the rule not the exception.
This exhilarating yet totally bi-polar process gets even trickier later in life after the frivolity of the 20’s and early 30’s and when the weight of responsibility creeps on like the waist size.Show her who you actually are through and through, you’ll save yourself the stress and expense of posturing and pretending.