Online dating pointers
And yet another short list of things that I’m not really fond of: – Cars (can’t tell why I put this one first…) – Self-centered people (but, hey…Have you ever heard anybody saying “yes, yes, I am definitely self-centered.” So this one doesn’t really count!!By all means, you can inquire about the actual custody arrangement in terms of time availability for dating but nothing further is appropriate unless your date discloses more information.~I think it can be the right call to share some more intimate, personal aspects of our lives. You do not owe this person another moment of your time! One of my weirdest first dates is difficult to describe. It was very heavy, personal stuff that I usually don’t tell someone until I’ve known them for quite awhile (and certainly not on a first date)! Additionally, you can see that some flexibility in dating is normal and expected!Though these things aren’t typically “first date” material, there can be exceptions. He wasn’t overly physical with me but he kept steamrolling my emotional boundaries. No matter what I said, he ignored me and kept pushing. It’s impossible to predict exactly what you and your date’s dynamic, energy, vibe, and chemistry will be.Unexpectedly I received a Facebook message from a dear friend I hadn’t heard from in decades. Either one of those things is unattractive.~Disclose certain health issues.
I will never know anyway 🙂 Travel, surprises, music, dancing, sports, books, last minute plans, open mind, photography, museum, craziness, spontaneity, going out (but also staying in), sharing, simplicity, respect, flip flops (yes, the sandals), down to earth (however fantasy is also very important), people, casual, word, news, work, sense of humor about yourself, awareness.Once I have his answer, I might gently move onto what type of relationship (if any) that he is currently looking for.I do not continue to ask questions about his prior relationships unless HE volunteers further information.~Ask about children if this is important to you.If this is VERY important to you, I would bring it up earlier rather than having multiple dates and addressing it then. ~Go off on your ex-spouse or ex-significant others! A few carefully (pre-composed) phrases should get the overall point across while avoiding sounding angry, volatile, and /or crazed.
On a tangential note, the practical aspect of custody arrangements falls into my “tread carefully” category, too. Obviously you should be yourself on a first date, but I hope my pointers are helpful in providing some practical guidance in how to approach that first date!
Had we not been so open with one another on that first date, I’m not sure that we would have forged the connection that we did. But if you are feeling uncomfortable, stick to your limits!