Im dating recovering addict
Does this person share your interests and have the characteristics you’re looking for in a partner? It takes approximately a year to know another person as separate from our fantasies about them and us.
So the proper etiquette is to be a stranger, which is what you are.” Compounding the fact that we know very little about a date, our brains release a powerful cocktail of arousing chemicals, compromising our judgment and making us more vulnerable to danger. Tatkin describes it, at the mercy of chemicals that drive us to procreate.
“Most people are drawn to partners at their same level of emotional development,” says Neil Strauss, author of .
“Instead of trying to ‘fix’ the other person, get help for what you can control: yourself.” Who you choose as a partner offers a wealth of insights into your own challenges. Use what you discover to heal yourself and the relationship if it’s one worth investing in.
This is why it is often recommended that you wait at least a full year before starting to date in recovery.
Many experts in addiction treatment strongly encourage their clients to wait at least one year before beginning a new relationship. The first year of addiction recovery is a vital time when your sobriety should be in the absolute forefront and will take all of your focus and energy.
Dating in addiction recovery can often lead to relapse if you are not ready for what lies ahead.
If you find yourself being a magnet for all the wrong people or feeling “relationship challenged,” the path toward genuine intimacy may start with you.
Ask yourself: Would you feel confident introducing this person to your friends or family?