Dating tips dating muslim men
Of course, these individuals don’t speak for entire demographics, but they do provide some insight into the nuances of the very human search for love and connection. During my teenage years, I came to an awakening about what it means for me to be a Muslim. I don’t understand — people have been married for centuries.
I think probably the biggest point for any Muslim was post-9/11.
As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had. I was 11 years old at the time, and very naive in my understanding about the faith.
That's why, as part of It’s Not You, I'll be talking to people with a broad range of experiences to see how things are different — and how they're the same. I didn’t understand the politics of what 9/11 meant, and it was just a very tough time for Muslims in general.
I am at this point in my life where I would love to build a family and settle down. And men who are like that, you’re just like, Oh yes. I’m 27 years old, and I feel like I’ve just calibrated my fuckboy meter. If they don’t advocate dating, then what happens if you meet someone? I do want to reiterate that ‘American dating’ is totally against Islamic standards.
I’m now realizing that there is no set path for that — for how to find that person.”The beautiful thing about this is that everyone feels so isolated in their journeys to find love.
That’s what compelled me to start writing — I felt so alone.
For example, Ramadan just ended, and just to know that the guy that I’m seeing is going to want to go to the mosque with me.
Not just wanting to go to the mosque with me, but is going to be the one to be like, ‘Hey, I’m going to the mosque for these late night prayers. ’”This isn’t the same, but I relate to those feelings when it comes to the prospect of kids, since I’d never get into a long-term relationship with someone who doesn’t want to have children.
So, you think, “I tend to find myself in these situations when I know that my ultimate goal is to marry a Muslim.