Dating moving in
However, it’s not normal to constantly think about him or her.
If you meet someone and find yourself thinking about him all the time – like, obsessively – you are sabotaging the relationship from the start.
As a rule, when you meet a new date you like, impose a simple rule for yourself: Initiate no more than a couple of texts each day.
Feel free to respond to texts, but tell your date from the beginning that you like to take things slow, and this includes texting!
Your self-esteem depends on whether she likes you or not.
Rushing too quickly in dating has everything to do with how you feel about yourself.
You tell yourself that he is the funniest or sweetest or sexiest guy you’ve ever dated; that he totally understands you; and that you get along with him more easily than with anyone else in the past.
Why you do it: If you idealize romantic partners when you first meet them, it’s often a sign that you have been burned or neglected emotionally in the past, and that you’re holding out hopes that someone can magically fill the voids.
Here’s the good news: While you can’t undo being told that you were less than, being rejected or even possibly abandoned as a young person, you can make damn sure to have empathy for yourself and say nice things about yourself as an adult today.You constantly text him – or think about texting him.