Dating during separation
Although, some restraint is advisable to allow a partner never to use the children to bring you back together without solving the critical issues between the two of you.
Co-parenting minimizes the chance of children going into depression because of your separation.
Getting into a relationship complicates your healing process, by the time you come to your senses you have lost your current and old relationship.
Who wants to date someone with a relationship baggage?
When a partner comes back home to find an empty house with no solid reason, in defense, he or she can beat you in your own game by escalating the separation further through cutting communication.
It is through communication that you let your partner know your reason for separation as you develop a shared goal for each spouse during this trying time.
Taking time off away from one another gives you a chance to make a logical decision without the influence of your partner.
Have a mature meeting with your partner before the separation to have clear cut goals on the duration of the separation; the expectations from both ends and responsibilities.
Rushing to get a divorce does not give you a chance to have a dialogue and come to a compromise for the sake of your relationship or the children.Take time off away from your partner to reflect and give your partner yet another chance.Rushing for a divorce may lead to bitterness due to regrets.Marriage lawyers are never quick to rush couples into divorce because they understand the power of time in healing emotions.
You might have a solid reason for separation; but allow forgiveness to take center stage to salvage your marriage.
The dilemma of separation is either a divorce or a restored marriage.