Biblical dating relationships
It would be especially helpful to take the inventories mentioned above to the counselor for their input. It is very important that the couple receive affirmations from family and friends during this stage.
If they do not (unless there is a good reason), the couple should take the time to listen to the concerns and take steps to ensure that they are embracing and working through them. Once a couple arrives at the point that they “know” that they want to be married and have all the affirmations that they can receive, they can move from the Christian dating stage with confidence into the engagement stage. I do not recommend a prolonged engagement once the couple decides to get married.
This often means that a healthy bonding is not taking place and the emphasis is upon self-satisfaction in this Christian dating relationship. It is very important to look for CHARACTER issues in each other during this stage of Christian dating.
Give yourself enough time and enough settings where character issues can surface. Individuals can “mask” character issues for an extended period of time – especially a few months during the fantasy period of Christian dating.
It is important that there be a “pre” engagement period of time.
It is a temptation to do so, but I suggest that it is actually unhealthy for the Christian dating relationship.
What the expression really is saying is – “I am in love with the idea of being in love” AND “I really think you are the answer for ME”! This should be mutually agreed to and clearly understood by both Christian singles. It is very important that each person have their own accountability group of their own gender.