I'm in a relationship now, and my partner is white.
Talking to her about the anxieties I experienced around dating, it's easy to feel like my concerns were caused by internalised racism and problematic stereotypes that I projected onto the world around me.
"It's all in the mindset, and there's a market for everyone," she says.
My advice would be not to wait seven years until you talk to someone about your feelings or concerns, and certainly not to wait until a stranger on a street approaches you for a suspicious-sounding website you later can't find to have this conversation with yourself.
They love beaches, they’re all blond, and all have sexy accents.
Disclaimer: The traits detailed in this article cannot represent accurately all Australian women, as they are completely complex and multi-dimensional people. They’ll laugh at your jokes, listen to your stories, or, if you’re lucky, buy the next round of drinks, all these considering you are a well-represented, decent human being yourself.So, I consciously tried to be a boy from WA, to avoid being mistaken for an international student.Since then, my experience as a person of colour in Australia has been defined the question: "Is this happening because of who I am, or because of what people think I am?It was the first time someone had given voice to an insecurity I held but had never felt comfortable communicating.
My first relationship was with a Western girl when I was growing up in Perth, and I never felt like my race was a factor in how it started or ended.But I also know that those thoughts and feelings come from the comfort of our relationship.