Am i dating too soon after divorce
I have a deep respect for my role model as a dad, and as a man.I am showing both my daughter and my son how a man acts in the world. Dating after divorce is tricky too, and I’ve found some things I think are good indicators of how whole a person is, and how ready they are for a healthy relationship.Sure, your dating profile says something like, “Let’s be friends first and see where that takes us.” But most people I meet are really hoping that friendship takes us to the next wave of affection. We have found our own way out of the desert of depression and despair. Their divorce is still too painful, or their relationship with their ex is still too volatile. If, however you begin to think your shit is sufficiently together to date again, some new boundaries are in order.Or perhaps the child was overly shy and withdrawn, folding themselves into the parent.
All of these are clues that the relating part of the relationship might still need some exploration. And now that we have our kids, and our independence, we can be more intentional and clear about what we want in our next relationship.Even under duress, I am showing how I can remain calm, and make strong and positive decisions. Especially in the early stages of a new relationship. And often this trauma causes us to revert to old and unhealthy defense mechanisms. I have seen both men and women who were WAY to enmeshed with their children.