1st year sobriety and problems dating
abuse addict addiction advice advice needed alcohol alcohol abuse alcoholic alcoholic boyfriend alcoholic dad alcoholism anxiety bad benzos bill w & dr bob binge drinker boredom cocaine addict counseling craving day1 depression dreams drugs early sobriety.“'Two sickies don’t make a welly,’ my 80-year-old sponsor used to say.” According to James, a 33-year-old photographer from Los Angeles who’s been sober for eight years, when he first came to AA he listened to what his sponsor told him and religiously avoided dating women in the program.“I only have a few months, and probably shouldn’t be dating anyone,” she confesses. It’s really hard to stay single when you feel like you’re giving up so much other stuff at the same time.” Dr. Falling in love is a sign that you are being restored to health.” Take it very, very slow.Rosalyn Dischiavo, a sexologist and licensed addiction counselor, has a cheerier outlook: “There is another, more optimistic truth about love in early sobriety: it shows that you are healing. Date like it's 1955, whether it's with someone new, or with your current partner or spouse. Belisa Vranich—a clinical psychologist specializing in sex and relationships—all agree that there is no reason why addicts and alcoholics shouldn’t be dating other addicts and alcoholics.He didn’t date anyone at all for the first six months—he was in a Salvation Army men’s rehab anyway, so it wasn't like he had much of a choice.But when he finally entered the realm of sober dating, it was with a good chunk of sobriety under his belt, a strong program and a great relationship with his sponsor.
“I’ve been with my current boyfriend for a year now,” she says. He’s not an alcoholic, and drinks now and then, but is totally supportive of my sobriety and rarely keeps alcohol in the house.” Dr.“There’ll be plenty of time in the future for love that’s not mired by codependence.” The problem with alcoholics and addicts, of course, is that rules can often be disregarded and, rather than making the healthy choice, they’ll often opt to stay in a destructive cycle until it gets too painful—until they’re “sick and tired of being sick and tired.” Is that what happened to James? I’m not into the ‘Higher Power’ stuff in a religious sense.